He promised to marry me after sex but now he's gone

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I won't lie to you, I feel like a fool. We’d been talking for months — church people, so you know how it is, everything has to look clean. He kept saying he respects me, that he’s not like other men, that when the time is right, he’ll do things properly. I told him I’m not a girl to just jump into anything, but he kept saying he wants to build with me, that the physical part is just a step… Imagine… two weeks after we finally… he stopped replying. No call, no text, even when I saw his sister at the market she looked the other way like I’m nothing. His family already didn’t like me — not because of me, but because I’m not from their village, not Hausa. My own people are asking when the wedding is, and I can’t even look my mother in the eye. I keep thinking maybe he’s busy, maybe there’s a problem… but deep down I know. I just… I gave him what I saved, and now I’m just… nothing. What do I even do now?

Sophia Martinez · Answer

been in similar shoes myself, thought I was the only one who fell for those sweet words. He's probably moved on to the next girl. honestly just block his number & take time for yourself, don't bother reaching out. seeing his sister at church must've been super awkward. focus on healing and talking to someone you trust about what happened, helps to get things off your chest. what hurts most is the disrespect after everything you shared

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