He says I shouldn’t make decisions — is this normal?
So we’ve been engaged for 8 months and things were going great until lately. He’s started saying stuff like “men are the boss” and that I shouldn’t question his choices — like it’s just how it is. Last week I wanted to look at wedding venues together but he booked one on his own and said “it’s handled.” When I tried to talk about it he got upset and said I’m “undermining” him. It’s not just the wedding — he made the call on where we’re moving after marriage even though I wanted to stay closer to my mom. He says it’s his job to lead and I should trust him. But I don’t feel like a partner — I feel like a child. I love him but this is making me doubt everything. My cousin said this kind of control is often a red flag for worse things later — like cheating because they feel entitled. I don’t want to be paranoid but I’ve heard stories. Am I overreacting or is this actually messed up? I just want to be with someone who sees me as an equal — is that too much to ask?