How do I choose between my heart and my family?
So my parents found this girl… family knows family, Delhi girl, same background, all that. They’re already talking engagement and I can tell they’re serious. Honestly, she’s nice — educated, calm, all the boxes ticked. But here’s the thing… I’ve been seeing someone else for months now. Met her at a gig last year. She’s Punjabi, divorced, sings in a band. My parents would lose it. Like full-on drama, maybe even cut me off. She’s not ‘settled’ enough for them. But with her… it’s different. We fight, we laugh, stay up talking nonsense. It actually feels real. With the other girl, it’s just polite convo and silence. Actually, I don’t even know how to tell my parents no. They’ve been pushing for years and now they think it’s sorted. But every time I think about saying yes to this match, my chest tightens… like I’m signing up for a life that looks good on paper but feels empty. And if I choose her, what then? They’ll never accept it. Am I just being selfish? Or is it fair to want something they won’t approve of… even if it means losing their peace?