How do I fix my reputation after my ex trashed me?

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So my situationship with Jamie ended kinda messy about two months ago. We were talking marriage honestly I thought we were solid. Then outta nowhere they cut things off and started telling everyone I was emotionally unstable and cheated during our last trip to Asheville. Which is straight up not true — I didn’t even leave the cabin that weekend lol. Now half our mutual friend group is avoiding me and some even ghosted my wedding RSVP. The worst part? I ran into Sarah at the grocery store and she looked at me like I was some monster. We’ve been friends since college. I tried to explain but she said Jamie told her I lied about birth control and that’s why things fell apart?? I never even brought that up. I’m humiliated and honestly kind of angry. I keep checking my phone like maybe someone will reach out but nothing. I don’t want to make a huge scene but I also can’t just pretend this isn’t happening. What the hell do I do. Do I confront Jamie? Send a group text? Just lay low and hope it blows over? Idk I thought these people knew me better.

Raj Malhotra · Answer

Last year my ex painted me as the villain too — told everyone I was manipulative after we broke up. Was wild because our whole friend group kinda bought it at first. What helped me? I stopped defending myself to everyone. Seriously. I picked two people I trusted — one mutual, one not — and told them the real story straight up. Let them see I wasn’t hiding anything. People talk, but most don’t actually care that much after a few weeks. Just live your life loud and normal. I started posting dumb cooking fails on insta, went on a solo hike and tagged the trail — little things showing I’m just… me. One friend slid into my DMs like *hey I didn’t believe the stuff but didn’t know how to say it* — turned out a bunch felt that way. Truth doesn’t always win the first round but it shows up eventually. Oh and that wedding RSVP? Send a card anyway. With a stupid meme on it. Then forget it

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