How do I get my partner to put the phone down?

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okay so we’ve been married for like 8 months now and it’s an arranged match, both of us are 28 and at first things felt slow but okay but lately i just feel so alone when we’re together he’s always on his phone scrolling through memes or watching reels even when i’m telling him about my day or trying to talk about something serious like our plans or whatever we went out for dinner last week and he didn’t even look up when the food came he just kept typing with one hand and laughing at something on screen i said something and he got all defensive like i’m overreacting but it’s not the first time and honestly it’s making me feel invisible i brought it up in therapy last week and the counselor mentioned something about emotional availability and zodiac signs maybe affecting how we communicate like he’s a gemini and i’m a cancer and apparently geminis get distracted easy but is that even a real excuse i don’t want to be that nagging wife but i miss feeling connected sometimes i wonder if this is just how it’s gonna be or if he even cares anymore idk if this is toxic or just a phase or what

Ethan Brooks · Answer

my husband was the same way last year — i’d be mid-sentence and he’d just nod while typing something dumb to his cousin or whatever. honestly it made me feel like a background character in my own home. i finally snapped after he laughed at a meme while i was telling him about losing my job.  instead of nagging i tried something different — i just turned off the living room lights while we were both on the couch and said ‘can we try this? no phones for 30 minutes after dinner every night. just us.’ at first he was restless but i made it easy — i’d make tea or put on that cooking show he likes. we now call it ‘our reboot time’ and he actually puts his phone in the drawer.  try setting a tiny boundary like that — not a lecture just a simple ‘let’s try this’ with something low pressure. oh and i started leaving my phone in the kitchen too so it’s not a one-sided thing.  little things changed after that he started asking more questions and actually listening. give it a shot

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