how do i handle 'see other people' talk?
she said we should see other people while staying together because she doesn’t believe in possessive love. we’ve been together three years, live in the same apartment in Lyon, share a cat, plan holidays together — it’s not some fling. i told her i love her, that i want something lasting, and she smiled like it was sweet but naive. said love shouldn’t cage anyone. i get it, maybe. in theory. my parents stayed married, never cheated, but barely spoke after year twenty. maybe she’s trying to avoid that. but when she said it, i felt… replaced already. like i’m just one option. last week she went to Marseille for a friend’s birthday. came back late, wouldn’t say where she slept. said i was suffocating her by asking. told me to read de Beauvoir if i wanted to understand freedom in relationships. i don’t want to police her. but i don’t know how to love someone fully while pretending not to care if they leave. it’s complicated, as these things are.