How do I know when it's over after cheating?
So my partner of 3 years cheated last month. I found texts with this coworker, nothing too graphic but the emotional stuff hit hard, like 'I think about you every morning' crap. They said it didn’t go further than that & I believe them, but I can’t stop checking their phone even though I hate myself for it. We started couples therapy and it’s helping a little? Like I’m learning I’ve got this anxious attachment-style which maybe made things worse but still — I didn’t cheat. We’ve had two first-dates since then (trying to rebuild) and one was actually nice but the next one they canceled last minute to “work late” and I saw a photo on the coworker’s Insta from that night at some bar downtown. Probably nothing but my gut hasn’t unclenched since. Like part of me wants to fight for us but another part just feels tired all the time. I keep asking myself if forgiveness is possible when every new thing feels like a pinprick. & is therapy just making me better at staying in a relationship that’s already broken? I don’t want to walk away too fast but I also don’t want to waste years feeling like this. How do I know when enough is enough?