How do I set boundaries with my ex before my wedding?

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So my wedding’s in three months and my ex—yeah the one who’s a full-on Cancer moon, always says he “feels things deeply”—keeps texting me outta nowhere Like last week he sent a voice note saying he’s been “reflecting” and misses our late-night talks I get it we had a year together and it ended kinda messy but I’m engaged now and this is getting weird He showed up at my sister’s birthday BBQ last month said he was “in the area” which uh no you drove 40 minutes out of your way Bro I love my fiancé he’s an Aries total go-getter and zero drama but every time my ex does this crap I get this knot in my stomach like old guilt or whatever My fiancé knows we talked a little but not that he’s been this persistent idk if I should say something or just block him Astro stuff aside do Cancer moons ever actually respect boundaries or are they just wired to cling until you burn the bridge? Need real talk here

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Ugh I went through something so similar last year my ex started sliding into my DMs right before my wedding saying he had a dream about me & wanted to “clear the air” it was wild he even showed up at my favorite coffee spot like oh hey “just grabbing a latte” please he lives 20 minutes away in the opposite direction what finally worked for me was setting one clear boundary in a text I said hey I’m happy with my fiancé and I need you to stop reaching out I mean it was awkward but once I blocked him after he replied with some passive aggressive crap about how “love shouldn’t have expiration dates” it got better you don’t owe him a long explanation or emotional labor just a firm line & then stick to it if he shows up somewhere again don’t engage walk away or have your fiancé or a friend physically walk with you it’s messed up how some people think lingering feelings give them access to your life but they don’t you’re allowed to protect your peace

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