how do I stop feeling worthless after long-distance breakup?

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So my girlfriend and I were together for 2 years most of it long-distance we’d visit every few weeks and it was actually working we even had a dog together… well sort of we co-parent him since we lived in different cities. Anyway she said she’s just not feeling it anymore and ended things last month. I get it people grow apart but ever since I’ve just been stuck in my head like why wasn’t I enough? I keep thinking if I’d visited more or called less or whatever maybe she’d still want me. We still have to coordinate dog stuff so I see her online sometimes and it kills me. I’m 30 I thought we were building something real. Now I’m doubting everything about myself wondering if I’m just unlovable or too much or not enough in the ways that matter. I don’t want to be that guy who can’t move on but I miss her and I miss feeling wanted. How do I start feeling okay about myself again when it feels like she already replaced me and I’m just… stuck.

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i went thru a similar situation and honestly it sucked, we were together for 3 years and most of it was long distance too... what helped me was focusing on the things i loved doing before the relationship, like hiking and playing guitar, lol it sounds cheesy but it really did help take my mind off things. also try to stay busy, get a new routine going, and don't be too hard on yourself, it's okay to feel worthless sometimes but remind yourself that you're not. reach out to friends and family, they can be a big help. and btw, co-parenting a dog can be tough, but it's great that you guys are still taking care of him together

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