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Still love him but not in love?

We’ve been long distance for 2 years now — he’s in Melbourne for work, I’m still in Singapore. At first it was hard but I thought, Confirm worth it. We talk every day, plan for the future, even picked out a flat already. But lately… I don’t feel that spark no more. I miss him, yes, but when he says “I miss you so much” I just go quiet. It’s like my heart didn’t get the memo. We had a fight last week because I didn’t want to talk over video — just felt tired, you know? He said I’m pulling away. Maybe I am. But I can’t tell if it’s the distance, or if I’ve just… grown out of us. My parents still don’t know we’re together — I can’t marry outside caste, so we’ve been keeping it quiet. Feels heavy sometimes. Like I’ve built this whole secret life and now I’m not even sure I want it anymore. What do I do? Stay because of the time and plans, or let go before someone gets really hurt? Sigh lah.

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i've been in a similar situation before, long distance is tough.

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Marcus Johnson
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i've been in a similar situation before, long distance is tough... my ex was in the states & i was in australia, we thought it was all worth it too but honestly it took a toll on me. what helped me was being really honest with myself, i realized i was just going through the motions. i think you should take some time to reflect on your feelings, ask yourself if you're staying in this relationship out of love or convenience. try writing down your thoughts, it helped me clarify things. also, communicate with your partner, tell him how you're feeling, it's better to be open than to let things bottled up. don't be too hard on yourself, it's okay to not feel that spark anymore

Still love him but not in love?

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i've been in a similar situation before, long distance is tough.

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i've been in a similar situation before, long distance is tough... my ex was in the states & i was in australia, we thought it was all worth it too but honestly it took a toll on me. what helped me was being really honest with myself, i realized i was just going through the motions. i think you should take some time to reflect on your feelings, ask yourself if you're staying in this relationship out of love or convenience. try writing down your thoughts, it helped me clarify things. also, communicate with your partner, tell him how you're feeling, it's better to be open than to let things bottled up. don't be too hard on yourself, it's okay to not feel that spark anymore

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