how do i tell him i feel unwanted?

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we’ve been together 8 months and for the first 2 it was great. like, really great. then out of nowhere everything just… stopped. no more touching, no date nights, nothing. i asked once and he said he’s stressed about work. that was 6 months ago.

i try to initiate sometimes—light touches, kissing, even just sitting close on the couch. he pulls away or says he’s tired. last week i wore that red thing he used to love and he didn’t even look up from his phone.

it’s not just the sex. well actually yeah it is but also not. it’s that i don’t feel seen anymore. like i’m invisible in our own relationship.

he still says i’m beautiful and sends sweet texts. but actions, right? i keep waiting for things to go back to how they were. they haven’t.

i cry in the shower now. don’t want him to hear me.

maybe i’m being dramatic. maybe i should just leave. but i still love him and it’s like part of me thinks if i just hold on a little longer…

idk. maybe he’s not attracted to me anymore. maybe there’s someone else.

how do you stay with someone who makes you feel this way but still says all the right things?

i just feel so alone

Anonymous · Answer

i went through something similar with my ex, we were together for a few years and it just fizzled out, no more effort from him, i tried everything to get that spark back but honestly it was exhausting... i think you should have a real talk with him, not just about the sex, but about how you're feeling, like you're not even a priority to him anymore, idk if he's still into you or if he's just stressed, but you deserve to know, try to pick a time when he's not distracted, like not when he's watching tv or on his phone, and just be honest with him, tell him how you're feeling and see how he reacts, if he still doesn't make an effort after that, then maybe it's time to reevaluate the relationship

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