How do I tell my best friend I like them?

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So me & Jamie have been best friends for 7 years. We met through online-dating actually—both failed matches, lol, but clicked instantly as friends. We tell each other everything. Or at least I thought so until last month when they mentioned their ex is getting married. I felt this weird pang, like jealousy but too strong for just a friend. Then I realized I’ve been avoiding dating anyone because I keep comparing them to Jamie.

Last weekend we stayed up late watching dumb movies like always, but when they fell asleep on my shoulder I didn’t move. I just sat there staring at the ceiling like wow, this is it. I’m totally into my best friend.

But Jamie’s still hung up on their ex & keeps talking about going to the wedding in July. I dont know if I should say anything. What if it ruins everything? They’ve shown zero interest in me like that & I cant risk losing them. But the thought of watching them cry over this ex at a wedding they’re still obsessed with while I sit there pretending it’s fine… I cant.

Am I just reading into things or am I already too far gone

Daniel Cooper · Answer

okay real talk — i did this like 3 years ago with my best friend, and my stomach hasn’t fully recovered, lol. but it was worth it. i waited so long because i was scared of ruining what we had, but i finally just... said it. plain. we were walking our dogs one night, and i was like, "hey, this might mess things up... but i kinda love you as more than a friend." silence. then he laughed, not in a mean way, and said, "took you long enough."

point is — pick a low-pressure moment when it’s just you two. don’t over-plan the speech. keep it simple so it actually sounds like you. and yeah, it’s terrifying. my hands shook the whole time... but even if it doesn’t go perfectly, you’ll breathe easier knowing you were honest. and if they need time? that’s okay too. you’ve already waited 7 years. a few days of awkwardness won’t kill you.

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