how do we marry when we can't afford it?
so my partner and i have been together for 3 years we have a 1-year-old and things are actually good between us like really good we make each other laugh we co-parent like a well-oiled machine honestly but our families won’t let it go both sides keep asking when we’re getting married like every holiday it’s “when’s the big day?” and last week my aunt said “it’s not fair to the baby not to have married parents” which… okay first off rude but also we can barely afford daycare let alone a wedding my partner works part-time at a coffee shop and i’m on night shifts at a warehouse we’re saving but it’s slow going and every time we talk about it we end up stressed i don’t want to feel guilty for loving someone and not having money i just wish people would back off but they won’t and now i’m wondering are we supposed to go into debt just to make everyone happy or do we just say screw it and keep living our lives i don’t know if we even want a big wedding but the pressure is making me question everything