Is it normal to feel lonely in a marriage?

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I have been married for 7 years. We do not fight, we are not unhappy exactly, but I feel deeply lonely. We live in the same house but feel like roommates. We eat together, watch TV together, but there is no real emotional connection anymore. Is this just what long-term relationships become? Or should I expect more?

Henry Brooks · Accepted Answer

This is incredibly common but not something you should accept as "normal." Many couples fall into a companionship rut where the emotional intimacy fades. The good news is it is fixable. Try doing something new together — a class, a trip, even cooking a new recipe. Novelty triggers the same brain chemicals as early dating. Also, be honest with your partner about how you feel. They might feel the same way.

Anonymous · Answer

I felt this way for 2 years before I finally told my wife. Turns out she was feeling the exact same loneliness. We started couples counseling and it changed everything. Sometimes you just need a third person to help you find the words.

Is it normal to feel lonely in a marriage?

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