My husband stopped talking to me after our baby was born

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We have been married for 3 years and just had our first baby 4 months ago. Ever since, my husband barely speaks to me. He comes home from work, eats dinner in silence, and goes straight to bed. When I try to bring it up, he says he is just tired. I understand new parenthood is exhausting, but I feel completely invisible. Has anyone gone through this? How did you reconnect?

Grace Kim · Accepted Answer

This happened with us too. The first 6 months after our baby were the hardest on our marriage. What helped was scheduling "us time" — even 20 minutes after the baby slept to just talk without phones. It sounds small, but it rebuilt our connection slowly. Also, he might be dealing with his own anxiety about fatherhood. Try opening the conversation gently, like "I miss us" instead of "you never talk to me."

Kate Morales · Answer

I would also suggest checking if he might have paternal postpartum depression. It is more common than people think. When my partner went through this, we did not realize it until we talked to a therapist. The withdrawal, silence, emotional flatness — it was not about me at all. Definitely worth exploring.

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