Is it normal to hand over half my salary to his parents?
So I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now — we're not married but our families know about us & have even done Kundli matching. He’s from a small town in UP and I work in Bangalore. For the past 6 months he’s been asking me to send half my salary directly to his mom every month. He says it’s cultural & that it’s expected since his dad passed away. I thought it was temporary but it’s become a thing — like if I don’t send it on time he gets quiet and distant. I make decent money but rent here is insane and after sending ₹40k to his family I’m left with barely enough to eat some days. I told him I’m struggling and he said I should cut down on 'unnecessary expenses' like groceries delivery & Zomato. I love him but this feels off. His attachment style is anxious and he guilt trips me if I question anything. Like he’ll say 'my mom prays for you every night' or 'you’re the daughter she never had'. I don’t even know his mom. Am I being selfish? Or is this just a red flag I’m ignoring because I don’t want to lose him?