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We’ve been together 8 months and things were so sweet at first. She texts me every hour when I’m out with friends — ‘where are you?’, ‘who is with you?’, ‘sending location now’. Says she worries only, and if I don’t reply fast she gets quiet for days. Last week I was at my cousin’s engagement, having fun, and she called 5 times in 2 hours. When I finally picked up, she said, ‘I thought you left me already’ — like I would do that na? I love that she cares, but it’s starting to feel heavy. My mom noticed I’m always replying fast, said, ‘beta, in love also you need to breathe’. I don’t want to hurt her, but why can’t she trust me when I say I’ll come back? Is this normal or am I just not understanding her zodiac? She’s a Cancer, moon in Scorpio — people say they’re loyal only, but is this loyalty or something else? Feels like love with chains 😭

Anonymous · Answer

my sister went through something similar with her ex — started cute, then every hangout felt like a checkpoint. she’d panic if he didn’t reply in 5 minutes, even during work. what helped was when he sat her down & said, “I’m not going anywhere, but I can’t breathe like this.” they set little rules, like “if I’m out, I’ll text between sets at the bar” or “if you’re feeling anxious, send one voice note — not 10 texts.” it gave her something to hold onto instead of spiraling. you could try that — not shutting her down, but giving her a rhythm so she knows you’re still present. also check in when she’s quiet, not just when it builds up. my cousin did that & it cut the silent treatments fast. love shouldn’t feel this heavy

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