Kundli mismatch but we're in love—marry anyway?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and honestly we're so happy together. We talk about everything laugh at the same dumb stuff even fight in a way that brings us closer. But when we told our parents about marriage they got our kundlis matched and said 14 out of 18 points match—my dad called it 'half-good' but my mom won’t accept it. She keeps saying 'gun milan hi nahi hua to rishta kaise chalega' and it’s tearing me up. I’ve never seen her so upset. — I get it she wants what’s best for me but I can’t imagine my life without him. He stood by me when I had that breakdown last year held my hand through therapy and still makes me chai every morning without fail. Is astrology really enough to throw away something this real? I don’t want to hurt my family especially my mom but I also can’t pretend this love isn’t worth fighting for. What do I do when everyone says no but my heart says yes?—feels like im stuck between guilt and happiness

Luna Hernandez · Answer

I went thru something similiar with my husband, our kundlis didnt match perfectly but we really wanted to be together. We had alot of conversations with our parents, especialy my mom who wasnt convinved at first. What worked for us was getting a second opinion from another pandit, they told us that the 14 points we matched on were the more important ones. Maybe you could try that? talking to your mom and finding a compromise, like a small ceremony to appease her

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