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Love him but dont feel in love anymore?

Lately i just feel... empty. We’ve been together 7 years, married 2. He’s a good man—provider, respectful to my parents, never raises his voice. But after he came back from the US, things changed. Not like bad changed, just… different. He talks about saving, about moving abroad again someday, but never asks me if thats what i want. I cook his favorite meals, wear the perfume he likes, but it feels like im performing. When he touches me, i freeze. Not like i hate it, just… nothing. My mom says “be content, he’s stable”, and maybe shes right. But why do i feel so alone when were in the same room? I keep asking myself if this is enough. Is it wrong to want more? Or am i just being ungrateful? I dont want to hurt him. But i cant keep pretending im okay when im not. What do i do when your heart stops catching up?

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My sister went through something similar, and honestly it took her years to admit she’d already grieved the spark before it fully died.

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My sister went through something similar, and honestly it took her years to admit she’d already grieved the spark before it fully died. I remember telling her to try one stupid thing: plan a solo trip. Not to leave him, just to remember who she was outside the we. She went to Portugal for ten days, didnt text him half the time, and came back crying not because she missed him but because she missed herself. Youre not broken for feeling numb. Seven years is a long time to keep showing up when half your heart’s on mute. Try giving yourself permission to want something just for you. Ask him to sit down and say “I need to talk about us—really talk. Bring up the abroad thing, the dinners, the way you feel like a ghost in your own skin. And then listen. Not to fix, just to hear. If he gets defensive or shuts it down? That’s data. If he leans in? Thats hope. I started therapy after my own marriage flatlined and it didnt save us but it saved me. Real love shouldnt feel like a script you’re tired of acting out. you deserve more than just going through the motions

Love him but dont feel in love anymore?

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My sister went through something similar, and honestly it took her years to admit she’d already grieved the spark before it fully died.

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Sharmila Devi
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My sister went through something similar, and honestly it took her years to admit she’d already grieved the spark before it fully died. I remember telling her to try one stupid thing: plan a solo trip. Not to leave him, just to remember who she was outside the we. She went to Portugal for ten days, didnt text him half the time, and came back crying not because she missed him but because she missed herself. Youre not broken for feeling numb. Seven years is a long time to keep showing up when half your heart’s on mute. Try giving yourself permission to want something just for you. Ask him to sit down and say “I need to talk about us—really talk. Bring up the abroad thing, the dinners, the way you feel like a ghost in your own skin. And then listen. Not to fix, just to hear. If he gets defensive or shuts it down? That’s data. If he leans in? Thats hope. I started therapy after my own marriage flatlined and it didnt save us but it saved me. Real love shouldnt feel like a script you’re tired of acting out. you deserve more than just going through the motions

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