Moved for him and now he's backing out?

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so i packed up my whole life in ohio. left my apartment sublet my place drove 14 hours to austin for this guy. we’d been dating long distance for like 8 months and he kept saying i’m the one blah blah. when i got here he was sweet at first but then started pulling away. now he says he’s not ready for commitment and needs space. i mean what the hell. i sold my car to afford this move and was counting on staying with him while i looked for work. ngl i feel so used. we were sleeping together every night at first and now he barely texts. i don’t even know where we stand are we broken up? are we on hold? he says he cares but won’t define anything. i’m stuck here with no job no friends and barely any money. should i just cut it off and go back home or try to make it work. i just need someone to tell me if this is normal or if i’m being naive idk how to even start over

Isabella Rossi · Answer

So I’ve been there man. I moved to Denver for a guy after six months of long distance and he ghosted me for three weeks after I got here. I remember sitting in a Target parking lot crying because I’d already quit my job and sold most of my furniture. First thing—breathe. You’re not stupid for believing him. You took a leap because you trusted what he showed you and that doesn’t make you weak it makes you brave. But right now your priority is you. Like get your feet under you. Crash on a friend’s couch if you can or look up short-term sublets on Facebook Austin groups—I found mine through a post that said ‘room for sad girl with cat’ literally. Start applying for jobs tonight even if it’s just data entry or cafes don’t wait on him. And please talk to someone—a friend not him—because you’re gonna spiral and that’s normal. I ended up waitressing and met my current boyfriend at a dog park while crying over my lease. Life twists hard but it also gives second chances

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