My fiancé’s family wants matching stars, I don’t believe

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So my fiancé and I have been together for 4 years we finally set a wedding date last month and now his parents are saying we can’t get married unless our nakshatras match? Like full on sent me a list of “compatible” constellations or whatever and want us to consult some astrologer in their hometown. I tried being polite at first but honestly it’s starting to feel like they’re questioning our love or like I’m not good enough if the stars don’t align.

I told my fiancé I don’t believe in any of this stuff and he said he doesn’t either but he’s scared of hurting his parents feelings. They’re already kinda distant with me anyway you know the whole “she’s not from our village type vibe” and now this feels like another barrier. I get that traditions matter but come on? Should I just go through with the astrology check to keep peace or do I stand my ground?

And what if the stars don’t match what then am I just uninvited from my own wedding? I’m so frustrated I love him but I don’t want to start our marriage by pretending I believe in something I don’t. Plus his mom said something about “bad luck” if we ignore this it’s making me anxious

Ananya Reddy · Answer

My cousin went through something almost identical — her mom pulled out this old family chart like it was law or something. We laughed about it later but at the time? Super stressful. I get why you're upset it feels like they're putting your relationship through some test you never agreed to.

Here’s what helped us: my cousin asked her fiancé to have a real talk with his parents not a fight but just hey we respect you but this is our life. He did it calm, direct, didn’t trash astrology just said we’re not building our marriage on it. It took a few conversations but they backed off.

Maybe suggest your fiancé do the same? Not a battle, just a boundary. & if they keep pushing maybe they can get their own matching stars or whatever — you two are the ones getting married. I had zero interest in that stuff and married my guy anyway. Still going strong two years in.

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