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I'm at my wits end... my husband and I have been trying for a second kid for years but the docs say it's just not possible. his family is being super harsh about it, they all blame me for not giving them a grandson. they keep saying things like 'what's wrong with you' or 'you're not trying hard enough'. it's really hurtful. my husband tries to stick up for me but i can see the disappointment in his eyes too. we've been to therapy and all that but it's hard to deal with the pressure from his family. i feel like i'm letting everyone down. sometimes i wonder if he wishes he had married someone else, someone who could give him a son. his family is really into that zodiac compatibility stuff and they say our signs arent compatible for multiple kids... i dont know what to do anymore

Olivia Chen · Answer

My sister went through something similar and it broke my heart to watch. her husband’s family was relentless about wanting a boy and when it didn’t happen they acted like she’d failed at life. what helped her most was setting real hard boundaries — she stopped going to family dinners unless they agreed to keep their mouths shut. my sister and her husband even wrote a little script they’d use like 'we’re not discussing kids tonight' and if someone pushed it they’d leave. sounds harsh but peace was worth it. also — real talk — your worth isn’t tied to anybody’s grandkid. i know that’s easy to say and hard to feel. but my sister started volunteering at an animal shelter and found this weird kind of healing there... helping something else that needed love. not saying you have to do that but sometimes healing shows up where you least expect it. you and your husband are a family no matter what anyone says

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