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I'm really frustrated right now. So I've been seeing this guy for a bit and we just had our second date. Things were going great, I thought. But then he told me that his parents checked my family background before we even had our second date. I had no idea, and to be honest, it feels kinda invasive. Daebak, I'm still trying to wrap my head around it. He said it's just what their family does, but it's making me feel like I'm under a microscope. I think our situation is crazy-making because now I'm wondering what else they're going to dig up. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?

Jamal Davis · Answer

Man that's crazy, I can see why you'd feel invasive, like they're judging you before even getting to know you. I had something similar happen with my girl's family, they did a whole background check on me, idk if it was cuz I'm from the projects or what, but it made me feel like I wasn't good enough... what I did was just talk to my girl about it, be honest with her, and see how she feels about it, maybe she can talk to her parents or something

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