Parents won’t accept my non-Malay girlfriend

We’ve been together for 2 years now. Met her at a book store near Tiong Bahru — she’s Chinese, speaks decent Malay, even goes to the mosque with me on Eid. My parents know about her, but every time I bring her up, it’s “you must marry Malay girl, same religion, same culture”. I get it, okay? But she respects everything. She wears tudung when visiting my family, prays with me, even my *tok nenek* likes her. Last week, I asked if she can come for Hari Raya. Ma said no. Said it’ll “look bad” for relatives. Pa just gave me that look — like I’m disappointing them. I love her, but I also can’t just cut my parents off. It’s not that simple. She’s starting to feel like she’s not enough. I tell her she is, but… I don’t know how long I can keep choosing between them. If I propose, they’ll disown me for real. Is that what I have to do? Just go full rebel? Or is there a way without burning everything down? Sometimes I wonder… if she was Malay, would this even be a problem. Confirm not. Advice needed. Feeling stuck.