She keeps delaying marriage for promotions, why?

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We’ve been together 4 years, and Priya keeps saying she wants to get married but only after this promotion, then another one… now it’s ‘wait until I hit director’. I get wanting to build a career, but when we talk about wedding stuff, she changes the subject or says “let’s focus on now” lah. Last month I booked a little temple visit for us, just to see how it feels, and she got quiet and said she’s not ready. I didn’t push, but it stung. My mum’s been asking when I’ll bring someone home, and I can’t keep saying “soon” when even I don’t believe it anymore. She says she loves me, but sometimes it feels like her job is the real priority. I’m 32, not getting any younger, and my sister’s already got two kids. Is she just using me as a backup plan? If she wanted to marry me, wouldn’t she make space for it? Can or not? Sometimes I wonder if she’s even serious or just saying what I want to hear to keep things comfortable. I don’t want to be that guy waiting forever, but I also don’t want to lose her. What do I do?

Sienna Taylor · Answer

Honestly I've been in similar shoes, my ex kept pushing our wedding plans back for her career and I got tired of waiting, tbh it made me feel like I wasn't a priority, so I'd say have a real talk with Priya, not just about the wedding but about what you both want from life, she might be using these promotions as a distraction from commitment, or maybe she's just really focused on her career, either way you need to know where you stand, and I'd do it sooner rather than later, my mum was breathing down my neck too and it added to the stress, ngl it's tough but you gotta think about what you want, do you want to wait around for her to be ready or do you want to move on?

She keeps delaying marriage for promotions, why?

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