She keeps delaying marriage for promotions, why?
We’ve been together 4 years, and Priya keeps saying she wants to get married but only after this promotion, then another one… now it’s ‘wait until I hit director’. I get wanting to build a career, but when we talk about wedding stuff, she changes the subject or says “let’s focus on now” lah. Last month I booked a little temple visit for us, just to see how it feels, and she got quiet and said she’s not ready. I didn’t push, but it stung. My mum’s been asking when I’ll bring someone home, and I can’t keep saying “soon” when even I don’t believe it anymore. She says she loves me, but sometimes it feels like her job is the real priority. I’m 32, not getting any younger, and my sister’s already got two kids. Is she just using me as a backup plan? If she wanted to marry me, wouldn’t she make space for it? Can or not? Sometimes I wonder if she’s even serious or just saying what I want to hear to keep things comfortable. I don’t want to be that guy waiting forever, but I also don’t want to lose her. What do I do?
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