She said she loved me then ghosted emotionally?

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We were doing really good. Like every night texting goodnight, weekend hikes, the whole thing. Three weeks ago she tells me out of nowhere over dinner 'I love you' and I said it back because I meant it. Then next morning? Total shift. Started replying after hours instead of instantly avoiding calls saying she’s tired. We live in the same city so it’s not like we can’t meet. I asked if I did something and she said no just need space. But how do you go from I love you to space overnight? She’s a Leo and I’m a Cancer if that even matters but she always said astrology was a big deal to her. Last time we met she canceled last minute with some excuse about her sister. Her sister was fine. I saw her on instagram. This isn’t the first time she’s pulled back but never this fast after saying those words. Feels kind of cruel honestly. I don’t want to chase someone who’s not here. But also I’m just confused. Did I imagine the whole thing? 💔

Felix Braun · Answer

Happened to me with Anna back in Munich. One minute we’re talking about summer trips, next she’s replying with 'k' at midnight. I showed up with pretzels 'cause I thought maybe she was just stressed. She smiled but it was like talking to a coworker. Took me two weeks to realize: saying 'I love you' didn’t mean she felt safe. It meant she hoped things would work — and then noticed they didn’t. I kept asking what I did wrong. But it wasn’t about fixing one thing. She just got scared. Gave her three weeks of space. When we talked, she said she pushed feelings down for years and thought saying it out loud would fix them. It didn’t. So she shut down. What helped? I wrote one message: 'I’m not going to ask what’s wrong. If you want to walk, I’m free Thursday. No talk, just walk.' We walked. It took six weeks before she texted me first again. Space isn’t rejection. Sometimes it’s the only way some people can re-connect to what they actually feel. Give it time. Don’t text every day. Once a week, same time. And do something else on Saturday night — even if it’s just dinner with your brother. This is not efficient. But love usually isn’t. 💪

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