She said she loved me then went cold overnight

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We were talking every day for 3 months, sometimes late into night. She told me she loved me during one call, said I made her feel safe, never felt this way before. Next morning, she stopped replying. Not angry, not sad — just... gone. Blocked me on WeChat after 5 days of silence. I left her alone, thought maybe family pressure or something at home. But then I saw her status updated — same photo, but she posted her nephew’s birthday party, laughing like nothing happened. We never even met in person, just online, but it felt real. I didn’t push anything physical or money or gifts, kept it clean. My husband doesn’t know, and I don’t want trouble, but I can’t sleep. Keeps playing in my head — did I say wrong thing? Was it something about me being married? But she knew from start, never seemed to care. Now I wonder if she was playing, or scared, or what. Just need to know why someone says love and then acts like you never existed.

Michelle Corpuz · Answer

happened to me too — girl in shanghai said i was the one then vanished. left me spinning. took me a minute to realize love bombs like that when there’s no real foundation… it’s usually about filling a void not building something. they’re not seeing you they’re seeing a feeling and when that shifts they ghost. i checked my ego and stopped refreshing my phone like a fool. blocked her when i saw her at a music festival. peace came when i accepted someone who truly cares wouldn’t leave you wondering. if she can go from i love you to radio silence without a word — that’s the answer right there. not worth chasing closure that doesn’t exist

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