She said she loved me then went cold overnight

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We’ve been married for 8 months, set up by our families. First few weeks were rough but then she told me out of nowhere, "I think I’m starting to love you." Made me so happy... we even planned video calls every night. But then last week, she stopped replying. I called and she said she’s "tired" and just... disconnected. When I asked if I did something, she said no, then hung up. We’re long distance until my visa clears, but now she won’t even text back like before. See, my mom keeps asking if everything’s okay, and I don’t know what to say. I send her little things — poems, songs — but silence. I know girls here don’t always say what they feel, but this? Feels like I’m chasing something that’s already gone. Did I misread everything? Or is there a family issue she’s not allowed to talk about...? I just want to fix it, but I don’t even know what broke.

Kwame Asante · Answer

My brother, I've been in similar shoes, long distance with my wife before we got married, and it's tough. This life sha, it's like you're walking in the dark, not knowing what's going on. I think you should give her space, don't bombard her with calls and messages, it might be overwhelming. Just send one message, tell her you care and you're there for her, then wait...

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