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I don't know why I'm doing this to myself - it's been three months since we broke up and I still find myself scrolling through his social media to see if he's moved on. We were together for two years, and my family was really invested in us, they loved him like a son. I know they're all worried about me, my mum keeps asking if I'm okay, but honestly, I don't know if I am. I thought I was fine, but I guess I'm not over him yet. I'm trying to focus on myself, but it's hard when I see him posting pictures with his friends, living his life, and I'm just here, stuck in the past. I feel so silly for still caring, but I just can't help it

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same thing happened to me after my ex and i split. i’d wake up and go straight to instagram, looking for clues like he’d posted a new pic or was out with friends or — god — someone new. it made me feel like crap every time. what finally helped was deleting the app for a week. cold turkey.

at first i panicked. kept pulling my phone out on autopilot. but after a few days? it got quieter in my head. i started sleeping better.

i also told my mom i needed to stop talking about him. not forever, but just for a month. she didn’t push as much after that. weird how setting a boundary with someone else helps you protect your own space.

try this: block him for now. not dramatic, just mute his stories and posts. you don’t need to see anything until you’re ready. your heart’s still tender. give it room to heal.

it’s okay that you’re not fine. that doesn’t mean you’re stuck.

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