Still haven't met his family after 5 years?

My ex did this exact thing and I didn’t get it until it was way too late. Five years is not a glitch — it’s a pattern. I’m Malay too and my parents raised me to know that family isn’t something you hide… so when I finally met his dad after three years it was in a food court like we were sneaking around. Turned out he hadn’t even told them we were serious. It wasn’t about me — it was about him avoiding hard convos. You deserve better than excuses. Try this: tell him flat out “I need to meet them by [date] or I can’t do this anymore.” Not as a threat but as a boundary. Pick a real date — like before Hari Raya or your birthday. Give him a chance to step up. And if he still wiggles out? Believe him when he shows you how he sees you. Actions aren’t just louder than words they’re the only thing that matters. I ended things over it and it sucked but… two years later I brought my current partner home and his mom texted me a recipe the next day. Felt like I’d been let in. You should feel that too.