Still love him but not in love anymore?
On the one hand, we’ve built a life — apartment, dog, he’s good with my mom, we even talk about maybe having a kid. On the other hand, I don’t feel anything when he touches me. Not annoyed, not repulsed — just nothing. We’ve been together nine years, married for three. He’s never yelled, never cheated, pays his share, remembers my coffee order. Look, I don’t need fireworks every day. But I used to feel warm when he walked in the room. Now it’s like noticing the fridge turned on. My parents stayed together because it was practical, not because they burned for each other. I thought that was normal. But my cousin in Hamburg says that’s not enough now. He doesn’t even notice I’m quiet lately. Says ‘you’re tired’ and goes to sleep. When I mentioned therapy, he said ‘what’s broken?’ Maybe nothing is. Maybe everything is. I just don’t know if I’m supposed to fix us or walk away.