What do I do when I meet someone who feels right… but I'm married?

i felt the exact same pull two years ago. another artist, soft voice, made me remember what it felt like to be curious about someone. i didn’t act on it… not because i’m a saint, but because i’d already cheated once years before and it hollowed me out. it’s not about guilt — it’s about who you become when you start lying. my advice? slow down. stop the walks, the coffees. not to punish yourself, but to check in: are you really falling for her, or just starving for feeling? my marriage was quiet too, until i stopped waiting for magic and started showing up. we started therapy, stupidly simple things — cooking together, no phones after 8. it didn’t fix everything but it brought us back to the same planet. write it all down. not to send, just to clear your head. i wrote three pages once about that woman, then burned them. weirdly helpful. and talk to someone who isn’t a friend — a therapist, a stranger in a support group. secrets twist faster when they’re alone in your head you’re not a bad person for feeling this. but don’t confuse aliveness with escape