What do I do when my heart won’t listen?

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Arre, it’s such a mess. My parents found this guy from our town — same caste, family knows his family, he’s settled in Delhi. They’re already talking engagement and I just… can’t. Not when I keep thinking about Rohit. We’ve been talking for eight months, mostly late at night. He’s divorced, older, and his family isn’t “our kind” — not the same background, not the same everything. I know if they found out, it would be over. Not just me getting scolded — my sister’s marriage prospects would be at risk too, yaar. It’s not even like we’ve done anything wrong, but I feel guilty anyway. Every time my mom says, “This one feels right,” I want to cry. I keep telling myself to let go, but I can’t. He texted me yesterday — just a song — and I listened to it on loop all night. I don’t want to hurt anyone, but I don’t know how to just switch this off. What am I supposed to do? 💔

Rohit Sharma · Answer

I've been in a similar spot before, my parents wanted me to marry this guy they chose and I just couldn't, I had someone else on my mind too... it was so hard to deal with the guilt and the pressure. honestly, what worked for me was talking to my parents, explaining how I feel, it wasn't easy but it was worth a shot. maybe try having an open conversation with them, idk if it'll change their minds but at least you'll know you tried, and who knows, they might surprise you

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