When they threaten to leave every fight, do they mean it?
Weve been together 5 years, married 2. Every time we argue — even small stuff like me working late or not calling — she says 'I cant do this anymore' or 'maybe we should just split'. Last time, she said it and went silent for 3 days. I was scared... didnt sleep. When she came back, she said she didnt mean it, just needed space. But it feels like a knife every time. My parents sacrificed so much for me to come here... I dont want to make him shame if I mess this up. She says Im too serious, but how can I not be? In our culture, marriage is for life. I try to fix things fast, buy flowers, say sorry even if I'm not sure what I did wrong... but then it happens again. I keep wondering — if she says it enough, will she start meaning it? Or am i just supposed to live with this fear?... I just want to know if Im being unreasonable for needing some stability. Or if this is a red flag I'm ignoring 🤦
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