Why am I the only one trying to save us?

man i felt the same way last year. i was the one texting good morning, planning dates, even buying flowers — all while she’d just nod and go back to her book. i finally broke down and told her i felt like i was loving a ghost. it turns out she was drowning in anxiety and didn’t know how to say it. we started doing 10 minutes of no phones after dinner — just talking, or not talking, whatever. sounds small but it gave her space to finally say she felt disconnected too. try asking her one real question — not “how was your day” — but “what’s something you’re scared to tell me?” or “do you even want to be here right now?” no pressure, just honesty. my wife said it scared her at first but she needed me to ask. and yeah. touch matters. started with just holding hands during movies. not sexy, just close. she didn’t pull away — that was a win. give her room to feel without demanding she fix it. but don’t stop speaking up