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We broke up last spring right after he got the job in Seattle. Three months and I still check his Instagram like clockwork, every night before bed. I know it's dumb. He posted that pic at a concert last weekend with some girl sitting kind of close. Maybe nothing but it stuck in my head. I keep wondering if he’s moved on faster than I have. We were together for two years, talked about visiting once a month, even planned a trip to Banff. Then everything just… stopped. He said long distance wasn’t for him. But now I wonder if he just said that to make it easier. My mom keeps asking if I’ve “gotten back out there” and I just smile but honestly I feel stuck. I deleted the app twice but reinstalled it. Part of me hopes he reaches out. Why do I care so much if he’s seeing someone else. It’s not like we had some huge fight or anything just slowly drifted. Cold brew every morning. His favorite

Svetlana Romanova · Answer

I did the same thing after my breakup last year... checked his stories, his likes, even his dumb meme posts. It got so bad I’d wake up and look before brushing my teeth. What finally helped was deleting the app for a week. Cold turkey. I replaced it with this stupid puzzle game — total brain mush but it worked. After a few days I didn’t crave it as much. Then I unfollowed him. Not a big dramatic block, just unfollow. Easier to resist clicking when his face isn’t in my feed.

That concert pic? Probably nothing, could be something — either way you’re not gonna find the answer by staring at a screen. You already know this, but saying it out loud: he had a plan too. You both did. And it’s okay to be mad he walked away from that.

Try this tonight: put your phone in another room after 9. Read a book, watch a dumb show, text a friend. The urge fades if you don’t feed it. I promise it gets less heavy.

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