Why does he blame me for things I didn’t do?
so last night, we were supposed to go to my sister’s dinner… i wore the dress he said he liked, tried to be in a good mood. then outta nowhere he says i’m ignoring his messages from earlier. i didn’t even see them — i was at work, phone on silent. he said i ‘always do this’ like i did it on purpose. when i said i didn’t mean to, he snapped, ‘you’re too sensitive’ … like, wait. i’m not even upset about the dinner, but the way he just flipped? this keeps happening. if his coffee is cold, if his mom texts and he doesn’t answer, somehow it’s my fault. and if i try to explain, he says i’m overreacting. it’s like… i’m not allowed to feel anything. my mom says ‘men need space, just be softer,’ but… i don’t even know what i’m doing wrong. it’s been two years like this. sometimes i wonder if marriage would fix it… or make it worse. i just feel… tired. like, why do i have to walk on eggshells all the time? … he says he loves me, but…
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