Why’d he put the house in his mom’s name?

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so we’ve been married for 3 years and saving forever for our first home we had a number set aside together i even sold my car to add more to the pot last month he said we got approved i was so excited i started looking at paint colors and stuff then i see the documents by accident — the house is under his mom’s name only. not joint, not ours, just hers. i asked him and he said it was for “tax reasons” and “easier that way” but his mom doesn’t even live here she’s in another state. i feel like i got sucker punched i gave up so much for this and now it’s not even mine. we had a huge fight i cried he got defensive said i don’t trust him but wouldn’t give a straight answer about why not us. we were supposed to close the deal on our wedding anniversary too which made it feel even more messed up. i love him but right now i don’t feel like a partner just like someone along for the ride. is this normal? am i overreacting? we’ve talked about therapy before but he says it’s not that deep. but to me it is

Grace Mwangi · Answer

My cousin did something similar and it blew up a year later. Turned out her husband’s mom was getting some government benefit and they didn’t want the house to mess with her eligibility. Still should’ve told her upfront. You need to see the full paperwork — not just what he shows you. Ask for a copy of the loan docs and deed. If he won’t give it to you straight up that’s a huge red flag. My friend found out her name wasn’t on anything and she’d been paying the mortgage for two years. Took her months to get out of that mess. Sit him down and say: I contributed real money and sold my car. I need to know exactly why this is set up this way and get proof it’s not hurting me financially. If he really loves you he’ll understand you’re not being greedy you’re being smart. And if his mom’s not even in the state it makes zero sense unless there’s something they’re not saying. Ask to talk to a lawyer — even just a 30 min consult. Mine cost $75 and saved me a nightmare lol

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