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I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we've talked about getting married. He's always said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but lately, thier's been alot of pressure from his parents. They want him to marry a girl from thier own caste and I can tell it's really getting to him. We had a huge fight about it last week and he said he loves me and will definately marry me, but idk if he's just saying that to make me feel better. His parents are really tradional and I dont think they'll ever accept me. I'm scared he'll change his mind and choose them over me. We've even talked about getting a divorce if his parents dont approve, but that's not what I want. I want us to be together, no matter what. lol, I know it sounds crazy, but I feel like I'm in a movie or something. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?

Anonymous · Answer

My cousin went through something similar with her fiancé—same situation with family and caste and all that. At first he kept saying he’d choose her no matter what but then he started pulling away. She thought it was just stress but honestly it was him already making up his mind to give in.

What helped her was asking one clear question: *When are we setting a date* Not vague promises—she wanted a plan. He couldn’t give one. That told her everything.

Maybe ask him to meet your family soon or bring you to an event as his partner. See how he acts when it’s real not just words.

People can love you and still cave under that kind of pressure especially if they’ve never stood up to their parents before.

Watch what he does not what he says. That’s how you’ll know.

Truth is you deserve someone who doesnt just love you but lives it even when it’s hard

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