He's perfect on paper but I'm not feeling it?
So we've been together 8 months, engaged now. On paper? Dude is golden — stable job, treats me decent, no crazy ex drama, checks every box my mom keeps texting me about 😂. But every time he touches me — even just hugging — my body tenses up. Like my gut’s screaming but I can’t name why. We talk, he asks the right questions, remembers my trauma, says all the right things… but it feels like he's reading from a script. Last week we tried getting intimate and I just froze — like full shutdown. He backed off, gave me space, said he wants me to feel safe. Which is… perfect? But why don’t I feel safe with someone who’s doing everything right? My cousin said maybe it’s me — maybe I’m letting the past mess with something good. But it don’t feel like fear of intimacy. Feels like… he’s hiding something? Or maybe I am? idk. I love how he treats me but I don’t *desire* him. Not emotionally, not physically. Is that enough to walk away from a ‘good man’?