How do I bring up sex when we havent in months?

my wife and i went through something similar last year. it started the same way — little distance here and there, then suddenly months fly by and you’re both just roommates sharing a bed. what finally worked for us was dropping the big talk idea and just being real in a quiet moment. one night i brushed her hair back and said, 'i miss you. i miss us.' no pressure, no timing it after an argument. she started crying and admitted she felt guilty for pulling away but was scared to talk about it. we ended up walking to a diner at 9pm and just… talked. about stress, her mom, her feeling like she wasn’t ‘in the mood’ and thought i’d be upset if she said no. my advice? don’t wait for the ‘right time.’ try saying something simple like 'i love you, and i miss closeness with you' while doing something normal, like folding laundry or driving somewhere. keep it about missing her, not about sex. and give her space to answer without needing a fix right away. we didnt sleep together that week but we started touching again — holding hands, hugging — and it came back slow. patience and softness man. it matters