How do I deal with his 'kiasu' ambition?
My husband wants us to move to London for his career. Says it’s the ‘next step’ and we’re ‘falling behind’ if we don’t go now. But we just bought a flat here, and I’m pregnant—due in 5 months. I told him I’m not flying halfway across the world to start from zero, especially not now. His idea of being kiasu is working 70-hour weeks, no weekends, no life. Calls it ‘hustle’. To me, that’s just suffering with a plan 😭 My dad always said kiasu people end up lonely, even if they’re ‘successful’. Didn’t believe him till now. My husband doesn’t even see how stressed he is. Says I’m not supportive because I don’t want to uproot our family for his bonus targets. Aiyah, I want him to do well—but not like this. Not at the cost of us. We used to talk about having dinner together, watching movies, actually living. Now it’s all ROI, networking, ‘strategic growth’. What happened to balance? How do you love someone who only sees life as a ladder? I just want us to be happy, not rich and exhausted lor.