How do I leave when they threatened suicide?

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i’ve been with my partner for almost three years and it’s been up and down the whole time. last month i finally said i needed space and they completely fell apart. literally told me if i left they wouldn’t be here anymore… i froze. i still care about them but it’s not healthy anymore. we’ve both got families that never really accepted us so it feels like we only have each other but that shouldn’t mean i’m stuck. since then they’ve been clingier, checking my phone, getting mad if i hang out with friends. i tried bringing up therapy again and they said i’m the one with the problem for wanting to leave. i don’t even feel like myself anymore. part of me feels guilty for even thinking of walking away but another part is screaming to get out before i lose everything. how do you leave someone when they use that as a weapon. it’s tearing me apart… i just want to breathe

Shahzaib Raza · Answer

i’ve been there and it’s one of the hardest things to face when someone you love uses that kind of threat it makes you feel like you’re the only thing keeping them alive but the truth is you can’t be responsible for another person’s choices no matter how much you care about them. i stayed way too long because i thought leaving would make me a monster but all it did was drain me and honestly it didn’t even fix anything for my partner they just became more dependent. you gotta call a hotline or talk to someone who knows how to handle this stuff i called a mental health crisis line and they helped me figure out how to respond without making it worse. you’re allowed to set boundaries even if they scream or cry or say they’ll end it all that doesn’t mean you’re heartless it means you’re trying to survive too. maybe tell them you’ll support them getting help but you can’t stay in the relationship it’s not a betrayal it’s honesty. and please talk to a therapist yourself you’re not weak for needing help carrying this

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