How do I let go when the good times won’t let me?

I was in a spot like this once—tore between two people I cared about and pretending I could keep the peace by not choosing. Spoiler: it doesn’t work. What I realized too late is that staying stuck isn’t protecting anyone. My not deciding actually hurt more people in the end. You’re trying to be good to everyone but you’re spread so thin nothing you give is really whole anymore. That woman who made you feel seen? She’s asking for a choice because she’s tired of being half a life. And your first marriage—what’s that even like now? Hollowed out maybe? I couldn’t fix mine once I’d checked out emotionally. Here’s what helped me: I wrote down what I really wanted—not what I thought I should do. Just honest messy words on paper. Then I shared it with a cousin I trusted (not a therapist just someone who’d tell me straight). You don’t have to figure it all now but you gotta stop pretending this limbo is fair to anyone. Pick someone—or choose yourself. Staying in the gray is a choice too and it’s exhaustin everyone lol And hey if you need to talk more idk I’ve been through it