How do I stop my wife from checking my phone every night?
Okay so this has been going on for months and I don’t know what to do anymore. Every night before bed she grabs my phone — no asking — just takes it and starts scrolling through messages, texts, even my email sometimes. Last week she freaked out over a notification from a coworker saying “great job on the presentation” and accused me of flirting even though we’ve never talked about anything besides work. I told her I feel like I’m being spied on and she just says “If you’re not doing anything wrong then why do you care?” but that’s not the point. I care because it’s my phone and my space and it makes me feel gross like I can’t breathe. We’ve been trying to fix things after that rough patch last year when I shut down emotionally and she threatened to leave — we’re in therapy and everything’s been better but this? This feels worse. I love her but I can’t live like this. Last night I hid my phone under the couch and she cried for an hour saying I’m hiding something and now I feel like the bad guy again. I don’t want to go backwards but I can’t keep playing detective with my own life — what the hell do I do