How do I tell my parents I won’t marry for money?

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My moms have been pushing this guy on me for months now — not a guy, honestly, just some rich family friend’s son who’s gay as hell but “stable” and “can provide.” They keep saying things like, “You’ll be set for life” and “Think about our future too.” Like my whole life is supposed to be a retirement plan for them. I’m 28, not a damn ladder they climb and then kick away. I’ve been with my partner for six years, same gender, same struggles, same love — but they say he “doesn’t offer security.” Whatever that means. He works two jobs & still finds time to make me coffee every morning. I just — I can’t sell my life like this. Part of me wonders if they ever see me or just what I can do for them. I love them but it’s starting to feel conditional. Like if I don’t play along, I’m not enough. I don’t want to hurt them but I can’t live a lie just so they can have a fancier vacation home or whatever. I wish they’d care about my happiness instead of bank accounts Idk what to do

Idk what to do

Isabella Rossi · Answer

My dad pulled the same crap with a cousin’s friend who had a six-figure job. Mom kept saying how he drove a BMW and that I’d “never stress.” I finally sat them down during Sunday dinner, right after the dishes were cleared. I said, “You raised me to know my worth isn’t for sale — so why are you asking me to sell it?” They went quiet. I didn’t shout, just stood firm. Ngl, it took three more talks and a few tears, but I told them, “I love someone who sees me, not just my potential paystub.” I also reminded them that my partner pays rent, has a job, contributes — just not a trust fund. Tbh, they still grumble, but they come to our place now, see how we live, how we care for each other. Start small — show them your life, not just tell them. Invite them over. Let them see the love. It’s harder to argue with something real sitting across the table

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