how do i trust him after finding texts with his ex?
so i was looking for his phone to check the weather and i saw a text thread with his ex — not just a hey how are you but actual long convos going back months. when i confronted him he said it’s just friendship, that they talk about nothing important. but why hide it? my dad always says once a liar always a liar and my mom would’ve flipped if abuelo did something like this. we’ve been married 4 years and i thought we had no secrets. now every time he gets a text i wonder if it’s her. he says i’m overreacting but it feels like he’s choosing her feelings over mine. i don’t want to be that suspicious wife but i can’t unsee it. my tía told me to let it go, that men need an emotional outlet, but that never made sense to me. if he needed to talk why not me? why her. we even went to couples therapy last year to get closer and now this. i just feel so stupid