How do we fix this emotional distance?

my husband and i have been married 7 years and for the past 2 we’ve just been… coexisting. we share a bed eat dinner together do all the right things but it feels completely hollow. last week i cried in the shower and when he asked why i said i just feel alone and he said *he* feels alone too. it broke me. we don’t fight or yell or anything we just… don’t talk. not really. he comes home from work says how was your day i say fine how was yours he says busy and then he’s on his phone. sometimes we watch a show but even then it feels like i’m watching it with a roommate. i tried bringing up date nights and he agreed but then forgot twice. i miss laughing with him. i miss feeling close. i miss when we used to cuddle before falling asleep instead of both facing away like we are now. i don’t want to leave i want to fix this but i don’t even know where to start. he says he loves me but it doesn’t feel like it anymore and tbh i’m not sure i know how to love him back the way i used to