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I moved for love and now I’m stuck

I moved to Chicago six months ago for my husband — left my job, my family, even my cat with my sister because he said this was our fresh start you know, a real chance to build something. His parents helped us get the apartment, which felt nice at first but now it’s like every time I talk to them it’s about when we’re having kids or when I’ll quit looking for work. We barely talk anymore — like actual conversations. He says Im overthinking when I bring up feeling lonely and honestly I dont even know if I can say how bad it’s gotten without sounding dramatic. Last week he stayed at his brother’s after we argued and just came back like nothing happened. I keep trying to fix it but I also feel like I’ve lost myself out here. My mom calls and says just pray more, that marriage takes sacrifice — but I’m starting to wonder if Im the only one sacrificing. Whats happening to us.

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Moving for love sounds romantic until you’re sitting in a too-quiet apartment wondering where you went wrong — I did the same thing when I followed my partner to Denver and within four months I was crying during grocery runs because even the cashier knew more people than I did.

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Moving for love sounds romantic until you’re sitting in a too-quiet apartment wondering where you went wrong — I did the same thing when I followed my partner to Denver and within four months I was crying during grocery runs because even the cashier knew more people than I did. It’s not just about being lonely it’s about losing yourself a little & that’s valid. I started small — forced myself to go to the same coffee shop every Tuesday just to say hi to the barista her name’s Jess we now get happy hour sometimes. Try picking one thing that feels manageable like a 10-minute walk at the same time daily or joining a dumb hobby group — I took a pottery class and hated it but met a person who became a real friend. Also — tell your husband exactly this not in a fight but when it’s calm maybe over a glass of wine or while folding laundry — say "I miss us" instead of "you never listen" it changes the whole tone. I cried telling mine & we ended up in couples counseling which sounds intense but it was just talking to someone who made sure we both felt heard

I moved for love and now I’m stuck

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Moving for love sounds romantic until you’re sitting in a too-quiet apartment wondering where you went wrong — I did the same thing when I followed my partner to Denver and within four months I was crying during grocery runs because even the cashier knew more people than I did.

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Fatima Al-Rashid
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Moving for love sounds romantic until you’re sitting in a too-quiet apartment wondering where you went wrong — I did the same thing when I followed my partner to Denver and within four months I was crying during grocery runs because even the cashier knew more people than I did. It’s not just about being lonely it’s about losing yourself a little & that’s valid. I started small — forced myself to go to the same coffee shop every Tuesday just to say hi to the barista her name’s Jess we now get happy hour sometimes. Try picking one thing that feels manageable like a 10-minute walk at the same time daily or joining a dumb hobby group — I took a pottery class and hated it but met a person who became a real friend. Also — tell your husband exactly this not in a fight but when it’s calm maybe over a glass of wine or while folding laundry — say "I miss us" instead of "you never listen" it changes the whole tone. I cried telling mine & we ended up in couples counseling which sounds intense but it was just talking to someone who made sure we both felt heard

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