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I work in Europe and send money home to my partner in Nigeria. He says he's managing the household with it but I'm not sure. I won't lie to you, it's frustrating when I ask him what he's doing with the money and he just tells me not to worry. My family expects me to take care of them and I do, but I also want to make sure my partner is being responsible. He's from a good family, we even paid bride price and everything, so I thought he would be more transparent with me. I feel like I'm doing everything on my own and it's lonely. Does anyone else have to deal with this?

Bong Enriquez · Answer

I've been in similiar situations before, my husband is also back home in Ghana while I work abroad. I definately get why you're worried, it's frustrating when you dont know whats going on with the money. Ngl, I used to be like you, sending money & expecting everything to be okay. But then I realised I need to have a better system in place. What I did was set up a seperate account for household expenses, that way I can see exactly what's being spent on what. You should try talking to your partner about doing something like that, it's helped me & my husband be more transparent with eachother

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